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I'm quitting my job :(
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Posted by: vulpes71
Hey, I've been gone for a while. My work demands a lot of my time and haven't got that much to surf.
Well, aside from my friend's advice, I need some outside opinion from you.
I plan to quit my job by the end of the year. The pay is not just good but really great. My company offers the best benefits in the industry. Even our mobile phone expenses are paid by my employers. I have good friends here, and some people really like me 'cause they think I'm nice 
Problem is: I'm not happy with my job. Why? You see, my work is client-based. So whatever the client says, I just have to bow my head and say 'yes sir/ma'am'. Recently, one client practically assaulted my person. And I felt, I can't take this anymore. Some said, separate your job from your personal interests. I tried, but I still get affected. I am trying my best to be better, I do everything I can to improve every areas of my job. But I just can't get through. I am deeply depressed, and want to take the risk of going on my own.
My questions are:
1. Am I a quitter who didn't persevere in fighting the elements that cause me pain?
2. Is my taking a risk now of giving up a job a bad decision?
3. If I stay, what are the possible things I should do to be able to stand the humiliation? (You see some clients make us feel like we're the most idiot persons in the world.)
Help, please?
Posted by: ZeRo_MaXwInG
1. I would not think you are a quitter if you quit because you dont like it.
2. It depends if your job is the only income in the household. If there is someone else bringing money home, then it should give enough time to find another job.
3. If you do decide to stay, the only reason should be because you need/want the job. If you don't like the job, quit.
Posted by: vulpes71
Yes, I'm the breadwinner in the family. I assessed my possible income if I go freelance. Plus, if I put up a small business, that would be enough for my family to survive. And my former boss offered me a freelance photography job. A lot of my friends offered help, my only condition is: I don't want to work full time for any company or employer.
I don't mind if I cut down on my leisure expenses. It's also OK with me to give up my magazine subscriptions. My only concern is I'm still paying my insurance.
I plan to go to food business because it's a basic need, so I believe I won't be in the losing end.
Thanks!
Posted by: redwench
from purely a practical view, do not quit until you have another job that can support you appropriately, including benefits. most (about 75%) small businesses fail within 2 years. so dont count on being able to support yourself that way.
the problem with going freelance, and ive known a few, is that you have all these jobs lined up when you start. friends, family, former business associates, etc. all throw business your way. that lasts a couple months, a year at most. then it becomes very difficult to get enough work to support yourself. most people that try this route end up having to go back to work for someone else.
you said food industry. if youre refering to catering or operating a restaurant, those have a higher failure rate than other businesses. and in poor economies, like we have currently, theyre almost doomed.
im such a cheery person, yes? if you were single, this decision could be made on your preferences, and youd only be risking yourself. but since you indicate you have a family, thats not the case. and if you have children, unfortunately, your unhappiness has to take a backseat to thier stability and wellbeing. self pay insurance is very expensive, as im sure you know, and can be cancelled almost at the drop of a hat by said company if someone in your house develops a serious problem. its not at all unusual for benefits to equal about half your salary.
before you do decide to quit, use some of those excellent benefits you say you have. you say youre depressed and cant take it anymore. get some psychiatric care for that while you still have nice benefits paid for by someone else. seriously, if youre depressed, this is no time to make a life changing decision. once youre out of the depression, and hopefully have more equanimity, you can evaluate this again.
ive heard this suggestion before given to women who want to quit the workforce to stay home with thier kids: cut back on your expenses and bank youre entire salary. do this for 6 months to a year. if you can do this without touching your salary, then its safe to quit, and you have a nice cushion if you need a new car 
Posted by: rockjock
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Originally posted by vulpes71
Problem is: I'm not happy with my job. Why? You see, my work is client-based. So whatever the client says, I just have to bow my head and say 'yes sir/ma'am'. 3. If I stay, what are the possible things I should do
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I have yet to see a job where there isn't someone whom you will be required to "yes sir/ma'am". This most definitely includes self employment. I do not know how many times I have seen people come to this realization. You will be subservient to someone if you want to eat.
That said, change can be good for your soul. Some times it is refreshing to get to say "sir" to a different crowd.
As Red said, keep this one until the next is lined up. It is easier to find employment when you are employed.
As for self-employment, you need a 3-6 month buffer of $ in the bank to get going. Your finances will fluctuate. You will need to watch for becoming to busy on the current contract and not marketing for the next.
Posted by: Shalome
From a practical standpoint, I somewhat agree with wench, unless you and your family are willing to potentially sacrifice a standard of living for your longer-term happiness.
From a personal level... When you have a full-time career, you are at your job for at least half your waking day. You probably think about your job, if not bring parts of it home with you, when you're not at work. This strange concept of separating what you do from who you are doesn't make sense to me -- if you are doing something for half your waking hours, you should be happy with what you're doing. This is why people go postal or wind up on Prozac, this being told "suck it up, no one likes their job, it's just a job, forget about it when you go home." For some people, this seperation just isn't possible.
Do what you gotta do to keep yourself happy and sane. There ARE enjoyable jobs out there, there ARE workplaces that are better than yours, and you HAVE the ability to find them. I wish you the best of luck.
Posted by: uh...ok
Coming from a family that owns a restaurant and having to work in it for many, many years... you'll have to deal with a LOT more crap when it comes to people relations...
And I don't mean just customers. You also have major headaches with employees and everything...
I'd say try to find as many possible ways to make your current job one that satisfies you more, and only when you feel like you can find no other recourse... then decide on whether to quit or not.
-uh...ok
Posted by: vulpes71
I appreciate your advice, really. And it's helping me in my decision.
Wench, my friend also told me the same thing: Don't make hasty decisions while you're feeling angry or depressed. It's better to decide when you're pacified.
I brought up the problem with my boss, and some of of co-employees suggested that we hold a meeting to attend to these concerns, and give some pointers how to handle such ***ng clients. I'm not quite sure if it will change my decision, but maybe it will just delay it.
I know I don't have a good command of the English language and my grammar sucks, but I'm not that an idiot, am I?
I just feel so bad, I don't handle criticisms too well with the people I know don't know that much.
I am adjusting, and will save enough money to prepare me for a jobless few months. But the decision stands that I shall quit from the company, sooner or later.
Again, thanks so much guys! 
I miss the banana!
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